This Is Critical, If You Want To Create Success In Any Field – Birds on the Blog

This Is Critical, If You Want To Create Success In Any Field

This morning, as I write this, my oldest daughter is sleeping on the sofa next to me.  Of all my children, she is the most sensitive or is it her age?  She seems to be crossing straight from single digits to teenage years in one foul swoop and I remember what it was like to be a teenager.  All those raging hormones, although I did not know it at the time.  Everything just felt so intense.

I felt so alone and I was convinced I was not loved by anyone except one family-friend who had noticed my lostness and taken me under her wing.

Much of the time was spent wandering around, writing in my journal but I had to be careful of that as there were spies in my home reading my private musings and reporting me to my parents who chose to come down on me like a ton of bricks for every imagined misdemeanour even if it was just being written about, NOT ACTUALLY DONE!

Anyway, the truth is, I still look back and realise I was not lived the way I needed to be loved so, no, I don’t think it was anything to do with hormones that made me feel that way.

And now, I watch my little girl as she navigates her deep dark feelings and I wish I could spare her some of them but the thing I know now that I did not know as a teenager is that I had a choice over what I chose to think, feel, believe.

Maybe, I was not loved but how did it serve me to dwell on it and feel alone and horrid?

It did not!

The ones I felt angry with, were doing the best they could bearing in mind their own background and so it did not serve me to hold these thoughts about them.

And as much as it hurts me to say it, I see my little girl and she sometimes feels lost in this crazy world we live in, as she navigates friendships and relationships with us at home, she gets to wondering as she grows up if she is okay.  Thankfully, she lives with me.  I notice and I train her to choose her thoughts and she gets better at it.  No, I am not perfect mum but I notice.

However, what of you?

Do you notice where your brain is taking you?

Do you notice when it takes you off the path of success onto the hamster wheel of running fast to get nowhere?

Your actions all come out of your thoughts about you and whether you think you can succeed at what you have put your hand to.  And if those thoughts are dire, then you will end up taking lack lustre actions or NO ACTION at all and you will get exactly what you thought you might – NOTHING!

And you will think that you were not cut out for it or that everything is against you or some other such nonsense but all you are doing is proving your crazy thought process right.

And you need to understand that you are the boss of your thoughts.  You do not need to leave any thoughts in your head that do not empower you.  Most people do not understand just how critical this is!  They simply think that their thoughts are all theirs but it is not the truth!  You get to choose and that is what i wish I could have told my younger self because I would then have reached success considerably faster and that is definitely what I tell my daughter now.

This is critical.

It is so important and I wonder why it is not taught at school.

Do you ever wonder why two people can be brought up in exactly the same environment and one will prosper and the other will not?  Yes, some of it may be the different ways each person was treated but overall, it will be the different underlying meaning each person gave to the way they were treated and also, what they then took it to mean about themselves.

You, as business owner, may know all the tips, tricks, and techniques out there…

You may attend all the seminars and keep yourself up to date on the latest and greatest ways of attracting clients to your business…

But if in the recesses of your mind is a simple thought that you cannot make your business work or that you are not the type to make money in business or that no one likes you enough to buy from you or some combination of thoughts of this ilk, you will always struggle.

Yes, it is that critical.

And if by some mysterious chance, you manage to overcome that thought without replacing it with something more empowering, it is only a matter of time before you self-sabotage and prove the crazy thought right.


Eliminate all else!

pay attention to what you are thinking and feeling.  See the root thought and eliminate it!

Replace with something more empowering – YES you can!

Do it now!

Fight for, deliberately design the life you are born to live…

Because you want to

Fight for, deliberately design the life you are born to live

Because you want to


About the Author Rosemary Nonny Knight

To attract your first five online customers, clients, recruits, download the free report here - More Customers Now Rosemary Nonny Knight was once a pharmacist and then decided to create a profitable business doing what she loves which enabled her to leave work. She also teaches other professionals and business owners to make the same shift.