Why you stop losing weight
If it’s working keep doing it.
Yet so many intelligent women come to me saying:
“Victoria, I was doing really well. I was in the zone. I was getting results, losing the weight. I was feeling really good and even enjoying things but something happened and it all went to pieces. Now I can’t get back on track. I know what I need to do to lose weight, I’m just not doing it! How do I get my motivation back?”
These women were doing a great job – they were taking action and getting the weight loss results they wanted – but they stopped doing what was working and now they just can’t get going again. They feel frustrated and confused. And increasingly fearful.
Perhaps you can relate?
It doesn’t make sense, does it? You still want to achieve your ideal weight and you know what to do to make it happen so..why can’t you just get on and start taking action again? What is going on?
Okay, here’s the deal. If you are having this problem it is because something shifted in your beliefs when you got off-track. This shift means your strongest beliefs no longer align with you achieving your ideal weight.
As you’ve experienced, this is a game changer – because you will always behave in ways that align with your strongest beliefs.
I’ll explain this in simple terms in a moment. But right now now you need to stop telling yourself you are insane, lazy, pathetic or any of the other mean things you’ve been telling yourself. Okay?
Now, let’s zero-in on what happened…
You were doing well, eating and moving appropriately for your weight loss goal. Then something happened that derailed you. What happened is not the most important thing however something did trigger you to throw in the towel. To quit on your goal. The types of things that have spelled the end for clients who come to me for help are:
• Going on holiday
• Missing a scheduled workout
• Getting injured
• A stressful work project
• Getting too hungry
• A family member getting ill
• Conflict in a relationship
But as I said, the issue isn’t that these things happen. The issue is when the thing happened, it triggered the end of you taking action towards your goal and as a result your strongest belief now is something like this:
“Clearly I can’t lose weight because I get derailed when certain things happen in my life. When I’m derailed I go back to the behaviours that caused me to be overweight in the first place – like overeating and being sedentary. Those types of things will keep happening in my life so it’s impossible for me to lose weight.”
Now your strongest beliefs are “I can’t lose weight” and “It’s impossible for me to lose weight.”
Your dominant beliefs run the show
When your dominant belief is some version of “It’s impossible for me to lose weight” then you simply WILL NOT take action to lose weight. Why would you? You are not insane. If you already know (believe) it’s not going to work, what would be the point of taking action? That would be insanity – or at least a big waste of time and energy.
When your dominant belief is “It’s impossible for me to lose weight” you will always take action that aligns with that statement. This is exactly what you are doing by overeating and dropping regular exercise. You are being living proof it is impossible for you to lose weight – even though you say you want to lose weight and you even know how to lose weight. Unfortunately you say with a heavy sigh, you can’t get yourself to do what you need to do.
You are doing a beautiful job of proving it is impossible for you to lose weight.
Obviously, in order to achieve your weight loss goal, you must believe it is possible. You need to believe you can lose your excess weight and keep it off, regardless of circumstances like holidays, work commitments, bad moods etc.
But if you are stuck, you don’t believe these things!
The problem and the solution
To really want something (like losing weight and having your best body) and not believe you can have it is a painful problem.
Luckily all problems have a solution (otherwise it’s a predicament, not a problem).
The solution to this problem is to get the right beliefs to support your weight loss goal. Your strongest beliefs must include these basic ones:
• I can lose weight
• It is possible for me to be my ideal weight
• I am learning how to achieve my best body and sustain the result with ease
The last belief listed above is helpful because it acknowledges you don’t have to have all the pieces to the puzzle right now – that you’ll work things out along the way. Which you will, won’t you?
The beliefs above are just a start. I recommend tweaking them so you get a belief statement that says exactly what you would like to believe. (For example: Would you like your weight loss journey to be fast, enjoyable, fun, done with ease? Play with the wording until you have a statement that feels the most empowering and inspiring to you. How about this – “I achieve my ideal weight quickly and with ease”?)
In my next post I’ll give you a list of empowering weight loss beliefs to cultivate if you ever find yourself saying, “I know what to do, I’m just not doing it.” Simply reading the list will shift things for you. I’ll also give you tips to keep the shift going in the right direction.
You really can change your beliefs. Even a small shift is enough to inspire you to take action towards what you want. Beliefs are what get you going and what keep you going when you are doing what works.
Until next time