Floundering with weight loss? You already know what’s missing
Are you pretending you don’t know how to be your ideal weight?
Pretending to yourself I mean.
Do you continually look for The Perfect Weight Loss Program? The one that will tell you exactly what to eat (and when) and how to exercise? Programs that simply cover diet and exercise aren’t really a total solution for you though, are they?
If they were, you would have solved your weight problem by now.
So if you’re still looking at the Diet of The Week and wondering if it might just be the ticket, you know you’re kidding yourself, don’t you?
Deep down you already know it’s not about a magic food combination or meal timing or some faddy workout.
You’ve tried changing those things before – and you’re still looking for the solution to your problem.
What does it really take to be your ideal weight?
Again, deep down, I think you already know what it takes. Even if you pretend it’s all about diet and exercise, you know it’s actually about something else.
If you follow my work, you know I’m going to say being your ideal weight is about your mindset and that you need the right mindset to be your ideal weight. This is true – but what does it mean? What is this “right mindset”?
It’s many things but ultimately the right mindset for losing unwanted weight is one where the focus is on looking after yourself.
Deeply and completely.
This idea is captured in the following statement:
Unburdening your body of excess weight that no longer serves you simply takes a genuine desire to look after yourself.
When you love yourself enough to want to give yourself the opportunity to thrive physically, mentally and emotionally, then you will do things that truly serve you in each of these areas.
Self-soothing with food
Self-soothing with food is not always loving to your body. Look out if you hear your inner voice saying you need to overeat because you are stressed. In this case you are using food as a welcome distraction but ultimately overeating leads to discomfort (physically and mentally). Clearly this doesn’t truly serve you. You need a different strategy for handling your stress levels and feelings of overwhelm.
Make sure you always ask: “Will doing this truly serve me?”
This will remind you to look at the bigger picture.
Now you get to ask yourself some more specific questions like: “Am I denying myself the opportunity to ultimately have something I value far more highly than a chocolate bar? What exactly is that for me?”
- Physical health?
- A rockin’ bod?
- Peace of mind because you no longer fear food?
- More time to do what you love?
- Regaining a sense of control over your life?
- Expressing yourself appropriately?
- Standing up for yourself and being heard?
You may find you are simply tired of the whole yo-yo dieting thing. Tired of criticising your body and your self. Is it time to move on?
Is it time to do things differently and get a different result?
(Read how to simplify “looking after yourself” when weight loss is your goal in this post.)
Until next time