Getting more than I bargained for at the checkout!
I was in the supermarket the other day and got a few bits and pieces and whilst at the checkout the lady putting our items through blurted out “You should be using Vitamin E on that” I looked around to see if she was talking to somebody she knew, but no, it was all directed at me and as I looked down at my bump I realised what she was on about.
I politely said that I was looking after myself and there was no sign of stretch marks as of yet and thanked her for her advice. But that wasn’t it, she insisted that whatever I was using was not good enough and Vitamin E would be a lot better. Fortunately we were only grabbing a few bits so I didn’t have to engage in conversation for long so I vowed to try it and walked off with a smile on my face.
I thought it was odd that a supermarket checkout person would be so adamant with their advice when they didn’t know me but forgot about it and got on my way.
A couple of days later I popped into a different supermarket to get yet more supplies I’d forgotten about in my weekly shop, only to be faced with an accusation from another checkout person. As my skimmed milk was being passed over the bleeper she turned to me and said “I hope you’re not drinking that!” to which I said, of course I am, what else would I do with it? I got a very accusing look and was told that I was not looking after my baby, as the baby needed full fat milk to grow.
I explained to her that my midwife was very happy with how the baby is growing and that I was advised that so long as I eat a sensible diet there is no need to increase my calorie intake as the baby will take everything she needs and if I’m hungry my body will tell me, but this was not a good enough answer.
She then went on to say that she hoped I was drinking Guinness every day, and even though it was none of her business I explained that I am slightly anaemic and am therefore on iron tablets so I was getting all the iron I needed from them as well as a balanced diet. But no, this was not good enough, I was wrong for listening to my midwife and doctor and I should listen to her, basically insinuating I was going about my pregnancy all the wrong way.
With only 4 weeks to go I think I’ve done alright personally, plus the fact she was telling me to scrap the milk and go onto alcohol instead as it was ‘best for the baby’?! Hmmm I think not!
I eventually got away from the mad woman and her accusing stare and whilst driving home thought, what is it with people on checkouts giving you advice on how to look after your baby? I bet if I walked in pregnant, stinking of booze and fags, stuffing my face with a cream cake they wouldn’t have said a word! So why does a healthy pregnant woman get so much grief and advice when picking up a few items from the shops?
It kind of annoyed me as I expect to get advice thrown at me from all directions and have plainly said to all my friends and family that they can give me as much advice as they want but ultimately I will do what I feel is best for me and my baby and if I make mistakes then that is all part and parcel of being a first time mum and I will learn from those mistakes and move on, I don’t expect to have to make this statement in a supermarket!
Has anyone else had random advice from strangers or supermarket staff? Is it me that just attracts them?!
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