Mindfulness meditation for effortless calm
I am the first to admit that I don’t find it easy to relax. I have a ton of stuff to do, I run a business that has lots of different functions, and it seems never ending. And people tell me, “But you’re a hypnotherapist, surely you can use your own techniques.” Well; yes, but I don’t always do this because it’s not always easy to do so. I have a tattooist friend who can tattoo himself, up to a point, but there reaches a point where he physically is restricted in his ability to do this. Brain surgeons don’t use their techniques on themselves; and anyway, have you never seen a hypocrite before (kidding)? I’m not keen on the sound of my own voice for helping me to relax, but the thing I REALLY do, which can bring effortless calm to anyone is mindfulness meditation.
So, what is mindfulness meditation? For me, it means noticing and acknowledging everything in the here and now, while sitting quietly. There’s nothing “woo-woo” about it, it just simply means being aware. At the moment, I’m having a relapse of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, so what I notice is how tired I am, and how much my arms and legs hurt. But this isn’t an excuse for a good old moan to get it out of your system, it’s just noticing. You can do this too. The benefits are huge, because it gives you just a few minutes to stop, close your eyes, and just BE. Be, without having to do anything, outside of the functions your autonomous nervous system requires, like breathing and your heart beating. That stuff is taken care of.
So, here’s how to do it.
Effortless calm is just moments away.
- Find a chair that will support you, but not make you so comfortable you could just fall asleep.
- Close your eyes, and take three deep breaths.
- Tell yourself that for the next three minutes, you are going to have some calm and quiet time. Your head will ensure you begin to stir again at three minutes.
- Concentrate initially on your breathing, and how deep or shallow it is.
- Move your attention to how your body feels, your temperature, any aches or pains, or how well you feel.
- Be aware of sounds around you.
- If your mind starts to wander outside of the here and now, as soon as you notice, just gently guide it back to the present.
- When you open your eyes, you’ll feel calm and refreshed.
This absolutely works, and is a great technique for reducing that frazzled tension you feel during the day. It’s not a hypnotic trance, you are completely in the moment, and just taking that time to be in the here and now, rather than escaping. It shows us that no matter what’s going on, we can take three minutes to be aware that relaxation is possible even when you are at your busiest.