As mad as a March hare!

Ah, can you feel the warmth of the sun? Hear the sounds of spring? Wee lambs will be in the fields soon too – a source of constant amusement as I drive around the Borders countryside and see them jumping around, playing, falling over and running back to Mummy Sheep for protection.

The madness of March hares isn’t something I see too often, but I hope I have a camera with me for when I see two bucks up on their hind legs having a boxing match! The term is an ancient one having been used in the English language as far back as the 16ht century. And here was me thinking it was all thanks to Lewis Carroll!

Hares are apparently mad for a good couple of months – during their mating season. I got to thinking about how we humans don’t seem to have a specific mating season. We have an every month mating season, and each woman’s is different.

We often think that animals don’t attach emotions to their mating, but that’s just not true is it? The male of the species gets very territorial and protective over his female. There are fights to prove who is the strongest and will produce the best offspring. The male does all sorts of strutting their stuff, primping and preening to attract and catch the best mate – I wonder if they get emotional if they’re rejected?

Human emotion about rejection and attraction and procreation gets all mixed up in a way that animals probably find very difficult to understand! Rejection is such a subjective word. If you’re prone to being rejected, it might be that you are dousing yourself in rejection perfume – in a wholly unconscious way of course. If it’s happened to you before, and it hurt, it’s quite likely that you expect that it will happen again. If that’s the case, then you start to act differently, change how you say things, and stop giving of yourself.

Some folk go as far as only allowing 50% of their true selves be seen or heard because they’re afraid they’ll be rejected and they want something to hang onto just in case. The just in case attitude means that their rejection has a much higher percentage likelihood of happening. It’s the 50% that’s closed off to others which makes the difference to relationships.

I wonder what would happen if we all adopted a bit of March madness for one month only (longer if it works for you!) If you put to one side any of your fears about someone liking or not liking you and just took at face value what was said or who someone was. It helps to remember that you are able to choose who you want in your life. If someone is just too tedious for words, rubs you up the wrong way or treats you with anything less than respect, then you can choose if you want to spend time with them. D’you think you would have more fun? What else would it give you?

If you’re up for it, I’ll post again in April and then we can compare notes! This is a great exercise for networking online and offline, for making cold calls, for writing blog posts, for meeting someone romantically and for relating with your partner, family and friends.

You are as important as everyone else on this earth, start believing in it and being an important person to yourself!