Are you a hater? Or are you just expressing a differing opinion?

By Paula Jones

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I am not comfortable with the term “hater”. Haters gonna hate, so the interwebs tell us.

All over Facebook, I see “motivational” quotes about how to deal with the hater, and I look at the comments where posters chime in about how haters are sad losers, with no lives, yadda yadda.

The problem with this is that now, the term hater has become synonymous with “troll”, and as we know, trolls are completely different. But DO we know this?

A few years ago the Sun newspaper (and I use the word newspaper with my tongue firmly planted in my cheek) ran a campaign to out the troll. This led to innocent posters having their personal details sent to the Sun; their only crime was disagreeing with the party line on a given subject. It’s easy to say we shouldn’t take this seriously, but there are some scary people out there who seek to discredit and make life very uncomfortable for anyone who speaks out.

Haters-Gonna-Hate-Pink-Unicorn-Bike Let’s be clear about this; a troll is someone who purposely disrupts and causes problems. A hater, in its original urban dictionary definition, is someone who cannot be happy for someone else’s success. It’s a fairly poor shorthand expression, but it does the job. If you’ve got a unicorn bike, yes I want one, I might well be envious. And it’s a pretty joyous use of the meme.

However, disagreeing with someone or something DOES NOT MAKE YOU A HATER. It does not mean you are jealous. It does not mean you are a troll. It’s become the lazywebs method of choice for stomping on alternative viewpoints for the bandwagoners who need to belong, and use this meme as their only choice. I guess discourse analysis was taught the day they were off sick from school.

I get sick of people attempting to discuss, then being shot down with “haters gonna hate.”

Oh grow up, and learn some debating skills.

That is all.



See you next week.



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Paula Jones is one half of Me and Mrs Jones Hypnotherapy in Harrogate and also runs Coach Class. She specialises in helping coaches and therapists to create great courses for their clients, and understanding the mindset; both yours and theirs; that's essential for successful courses.
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